Dear Reader,
If you're at midlife, you should be feeling fulfilled. Or at least on the edge of being fulfilled.
You tell the world COUNT ME IN! but the response is not always positive.
There are the positives – your family, your health, your wealth.
And the negatives – your family, your health, your wealth.
There is no end to the opportunities ahead. Kids are grown and gone. They don't need you anymore and maybe you don't need your husband? Divorces are said to increase at this age.
You start to feel the tugs of aging: a little arthritis maybe; a little breast cancer at worst.
Join in the conversation here. Ask your questions. Give your opinions. We will do our best to comment on it all.
There is an important lesson --
You are in control of your own life now. Or you should be.
Your Second Adulthood has arrived.
E-mail me here and let’s talk!
Jane
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Hi Jane - Certainly there are a lot of women in your audience who didn't have kids and possibly no husband to boot. Yes! Life is better than ever. I thank God every day for the gradual release of unrealistic expectations. I lost my job with the first hints of the recession. But being older and wiser, I saw it coming and a back-up plan ready. Now, I do freelance PR work. It requires a lot of hours but it's fulfilling like never before. Networking is expensive but imperative. Not just for leads but for connections lost with the work-a-day life. My mom is my roomie. We live simply, in a senior mobile park, older cars, no debts. Facebook keeps us connected to family and friends. Meanwhile, I'm designing/selling jewlery and working on another degree - interior design - all in preparation for the next phase. Our goal is to live in Ireland so I'll need muliple streams of income. Yeh, I'd say life rocks. Even if my hip aches!
Hi Jane;
We raised four children, began conversations about "when we retire" and suddenly our world shifted. Family stuff: critically ill parents, emotionally ill child, astronomical legal expenses, loss of jobs and an unanticipated move. NEVER saw this coming and it's testing the fragile fibers of the fabric I boasted was so strong all these years. Some days I barely remember the laughter. Some days I have hope they will return, not so much today though.
As I near my 54th birthday I am blessed to have had a spiritual experience that frees me from the expectations of youth. Expectations that haunted my youth such as worry about weight/body build/size of clothing, bad hair days to having the right job, getting that promotion, raising my son, men (both intimate and friends) and relationships that I had difficulty accepting including the divorce from my son's dad, getting along with my mother and being there when she was diagnosed with cancer until she passed on. I look back with amusement at how I placed so much energy on those silly expectations and felt so passionately about issues that would be as they would be regardless of the control I attempted to portray! I feel free! I feel lighter! I am experiencing the most beautiful relationship with the man I divorced as we both grow older. Love is grand! I wouldn't go back for anything as I love this shift in my life, beliefs, and understanding!
Sami Gordon
Fort Worth TX
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